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September 25th, 2016
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You are not special. You are not unique.
That's kinda mean to say, especially when we all know that we have SOMETHING special to offer and we're special just for being ourselves (Thanks, Mr. Rogers), but the fact remains.

You are NOT a special snowflake.

I don't really agree with this website or the name calling but the video is there and the facts are there and the biggest fact lying under the surface is that this "snowflake mindset" is a hive-mind version of narcissistic personality disorder.
There's this little thing I learned in school called Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

At the bottom, we have our base physiological needs; food, sleep, sex, etc. But then look at "Safety and Security." We can't have that without "Belonginess and Love," relationships with other people. I mean, I presume it's possible but someone that wants solo lonely safety and security will certainly not reach any higher levels. Once you feel safe and belongingness with others, you can build your esteem.
That's where this hive-mind comes in.

In searching for security and belonging, we try to latch on to others with similar mindsets. At some point, these "snowflakes" found each other, ones that think they deserve more because somehow they have been oppressed, and holding down said oppressors will give them the esteem they need.
Trust me, I know.
For YEARS I thought the world fuckin' owed me everything and more because I was born poor or was disabled.
It's not true.
It was so bad, that I often gave off an entitled attitude to people I cared about, whether I realized it or not and would sometimes REALLY piss them off. Don't get me wrong, I still feel like I should have better sometimes, like I did X, why didn't I get any Y in return? It's a very "why me?" sort of emotion and I'm not saying that my life has magically repaired itself... it's like a Greek Tragedy sometimes... but now I just try to keep in mind that I could have it a lot worse and try to consciously appreciate what I have.
That's my Self Actualization.
These "snowflakes" are constantly stuck on a loop of the middle three, needing a safe space with others they feel like-minded with and belong with and finding their esteem through minor "victories" over supposed oppressors.

And hey, I know people are oppressed. Women, people of color or immigrants, LGBT people... basically anyone who isn't a "cis white male." But overreacting to supposed transgressions just makes you seem like the aggressor. Something like self-identifying as something or someone you're not is oft times demeaning to those who really ARE whatever the hell you're trying to identify as.
Are there problems in The System? Is there still blatant racism and sexualism and ageism? Yeah, alla that. But that doesn't mean you can scream and yell and angrily force your ideals onto others while objecting theirs and then running away to a "safe space" when something offends you.
You have to open your mind, open your heart, bare your soul, face the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune and in doing so lets you take arms against the seas of trouble... armed hopefully with knowledge and compassion instead of buzzwords and hearsay, able to communicate openly and honestly with those who don't know compassion or humbleness. Then you can BE the change you want to see, and lead through example.

I know, I know.
It all sounds silly coming from me. But I betcha it'll work. We just have to work together.

(Put the Lotion in the Basket)

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